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ADHD and Marriage

When adults with ADD/ADHD get into long term relationships or get married, certain things can happen (because of the ADD/ADHD). There is a pattern of behavior and interaction that can develop which can undermine the relationship.

This can be very hard for the adult with ADHD, and also for the spouse or partner who doesn’t have ADD/ADHD.

The good news is that by understanding the nature of the challenges, and by developing the right strategies, things can improve significantly.

Watch the video below to see how ADD Coach Lynne Edris, ACG explains the problem, and gives you some ideas to get you started on improving your relationship:

(just click play to start the video:)

Click here for the iPhone/iPad version of the video

The coaching call will be live on Monday February 13th at 9:15 pm eastern time. Members of the ‘Insiders’ will be able to participate live, or get the recording after the call.

If you find this information helpful, and you’d like to join us for the live coaching call, click here to join the ‘Insiders‘.

Please share any thoughts or comments below.

Best,

Dr. Kenny

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Family Meetings For Parenting ADHD Kids

As a parent of a child or teen with ADD/ADHD, you’re likely always looking for parenting strategies that work. If you’re like many parents that I work with, you find some that work, and then after a while, your child (gotta love ‘em :-)) goes and changes, and then you feel like you’re back to the drawing board.

One of the strategies that can be very helpful, and is often not taught – is having family meetings. Family meetings – when they are done well – can be very helpful (and if they are done poorly, they can really back fire!).
That’s why I’ve interviewed ADD Coach Diane O’Reilly for this coaching video for you. She discusses how to run a Family Meeting to help your family to function better. And not only is Diane a trained, expert coach, but as you’ll hear – she has 4 boys – three of whom have ADHD (and one is on the ‘borderline’, she says), and she herself has ADHD. So Diane knows how to use this strategy to make family life run better.

Just click play to watch this video:

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If you’ve found this video helpful, and you’d like to join our coaching training call on Monday February 13th at 8 pm Eastern time (or even if you can’t make it live, you can get the recordings), just click here to join the “Insiders” program:
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Stop Your Child’s Negative Thoughts

Kids and teens with ADD/ADHD often have what we can call: “Gremlins”. These can also be called: ANTS = Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Everybody gets these, but automatic negative thoughts can be particularly difficult and damaging to kids and teens with ADHD.

And, most of the time, parents feel helpless (or helpless and frustrated) when they can’t seem to help their kids get past these negative thoughts.

ADD Coaching Diane O’Reilly (from Indigo Tree Coaching) is featured in this video which discusses this issue and will help parents to better understand the issue of ‘gremlins’ and also give you some strategies to help you to help your teens.

Step 1: Watch this video:

Step 2: Join us for a live ADD Coaching call for the Attention Difference Disorder Insiders Membership site. The live call is on: Monday November 21st at 8 pm Eastern Time.
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We hope this information will help you to get your kids ‘unstuck’ from their gremlins.
Best,
Dr. Kenny
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Adult ADHD: Surviving The Holidays

The Holidays can be a very stressful time for everyone – but it’s especially difficult for Adults with ADD/ADHD.

There are so many details to take care of, including:

  • Decorations
  • Cards
  • Gifts
  • Events
  • Food…
  • And the list goes on and on…

And the worst part is that many adults with ADD often get overwhelmed, and then down when they feel that they have messed up for yet another year…

Why not start off the holidays with some strategies that can help you out?

Adult ADD Coach: Lynne Edris (from Coaching ADDvantages), can help you with some strategies to help you to do better this holiday season.

Steps to help you out:

First: Watch this video where Lynne shares some specific strategies to help you out:

Second: Join us for the live coaching call on Monday November 21st at 9:15 pm eastern time. Just click here to join the Insiders Membership Site.

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And, we hope you have a great holiday season icon smile Adult ADHD: Surviving The Holidays

Best,

Dr. Kenny

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Procrastination in ADHD Kids and Teens

Does your ADD or ADHD child procrastinate a lot? If you’re like most parents, the answer is yes. And it likely leads to frustration, hassles, and maybe even battles.

And most parents are thinking: ” This whole thing could have been avoided, if my son (or daughter) didn’t leave this till the last minute!”

Procrastination is a complicated issue. There isn’t a one size fits all answer to it. To fully understand what’s going on with procrastination, and to help you to find solutions for it, I’ve interviewed Diane O’Reilly, from Indigo Tree Coaching below. She’ll help you to understand what’s going on with clutter, and also how to develop strategies to improve it.

To Join The Attention Difference Disorders Insiders Membership and

Participate in the Coaching Call for Parents

of Kids and Teens with ADD/ADHD:

“Overcome Procrastination”

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Conquering Clutter

Clutter is a universal problem for adults with ADD/ADHD. When there’s trouble dealing with the boring need to clean up little things, piles begin to build up.

Paperwork is often a big issue, as well as impulsively buying something that seemed great at the time, and now is just filling up more space.

And then clutter can get overwhelming…

It can lead to embarassment, and it can contribute to social problems – you don’t want people to come over because of how embarasing your clutter is. And then you may feel bad about your kids not having their friends over because of it.

And this can lead to guilt and shame.

On this post – I interview ADD Coach Lynne Edris (From Coaching ADDvantages) about how to clear clutter.

(watch the video until the end – you’ll not only hear me mess up (and have a good laugh over it), you’ll learn how you can get specific strategies and skills to conquer your clutter)

Join Us For the ADD Coaching Class: Conquer Your Clutter
On Monday October 24th at 9:15 pm Eastern Time

By joining the ‘Attention Difference Disorder Insiders Membership Site’
>>Click Here To Find Out More<<

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ADHD Coaching: What Is It?

coach 199x300 ADHD Coaching: What Is It?As part of the diagnosis of ADD/ADHD, one has to have ‘impairment’ in functioning, in addition to the required number of symptoms.
In my experience, people often don’t put enough importance on the impact of  this impairment.

Having ADD/ADHD symptoms can be problematic on its own…
But the real issue is when your (or your child’s) functioning is impaired.

How does this show up?

In adult ADD/ADHD, impairment in functioning can come out in these types of situations:

  • Paying bills and keeping up with paperwork
  • Meetings
  • Setting goals and achieving them
  • Handling relationships
  • Coping with frustrations
  • and much more…

In child/teen ADD/ADHD, impairment in functioning can come out in these types of situations:

  • Homework
  • Completing tasks/chores
  • Handling frustration
  • Social situations
  • Listening to and following instructions
  • And much more…

While all treatments for ADD/ADHD aim to improve functioning – they don’t always succeed. Medication can have a big impact on ADD/ADHD symptoms, and can often have an impact on functioning. Though often the improvement in functioning is not enough with medication on its own.

We aim for ‘multi-modal’ treatment – i.e. treatment which includes medication, as well as other modalities to help, because ‘pills don’t teach skills’.

One modality which has grown in its popularity and usefulness in the field of ADD/ADHD treatment is coaching.

What is coaching for ADD/ADHD?

Coaching for ADD/ADHD starts with a trained coach. Coaches who specialize in working with ADD/ADHD are trained life coaches, and may be certified by the ICF – the International Coach Federation, or other organizations like the International Association of Coaches (IAC) or others. In addition to having this qualification, ADD/ADHD coaches also specialize in ADD/ADHD (and they have taken specialized training in ADD coaching from organizations like: ADD Coaching Academy (or others))- so that they can tailor the coaching methodology to suit the specific needs of individuals with ADD/ADHD.

What Do ADD Coaches Do?

ADD/ADHD Coaches work with people in a collaborative way. Whereas therapy is often looking backward – i.e. at previous issues or challenges and how they can understood differently – coaches are forward focused – i.e. on functioning in the present and in the future.

ADD/ADHD Coaches help people to:

  • Find their strengths
  • Develop strategies for their areas of challenge
  • Pull in the resources they need
  • Develop skills to take care of themselves
  • And a whole lot more…

The coaching relationship is a very collaborative one – where the coach works with the individual to work on his/her own goals, challenges and issues.

The ADD/ADHD coach provides: accountability, support and encouragement.
When someone has been challenged with functional issues with their ADD/ADHD for some time – these three things can make a world of difference for someone who has been struggling.

How Does ADD/ADHD Coaching Work?

When someone works with an ADD/ADHD coach, they meet with their coach regularly. It is very common for these meetings, or appointments to occur on the telephone. There are times that someone can have sessions with their ADD/ADHD coach in an office (or even a coffee shop) for face to face sessions, but it is very common for telephone coaching to occur. Telephone coaching helps to eliminate the need for travel time, and it helps people to find a coach who suits them best, even if they are geographically far away from that coach.

In general, there would be a ‘getting to know you’ session, and the parameters of coaching would be discussed – so that the participant learns what he can expect from the coach, as well as the coaching process.

Then, there are coaching sessions which occur on a reasonably frequent basis – i.e. 2-4 times per month. Many coaches also include ‘check in’ emails on a more frequent basis. These emails help people to be more accountable, and to have more ongoing support between coaching calls.

How much does ADD/ADHD coaching cost?

Prices can vary – depending on the coach’s experience, and their expertise. For example – a new coach would charge less than someone who has been doing this for years. It is common for people to pay $300-$400 per month for the personalized support of an ADD coach.

Group coaching is an option which can make it more affordable for people to participate in ADD/ADHD coaching. This way, there is less personalized attention, yet the person is able to still benefit from the coaching process. Group coaching is less expensive, and thus it is often easier for people to participate in.

Does ADD/ADHD Coaching Work for Adults, Teens and Kids with ADHD?

ADD coaching has been done with adults right from its start. When an adult engages in coaching, he/she can take responsibility for his/her participation in the process and benefit from it.

When coaching is done with kids or teens with ADHD, it can be much harder. This can relate to many issues – including a child or teen’s comprehension of what is going on (i.e. do they even attribute problematic behaviors to their own symptoms or actions?), or their desire to work on challenging or frustrating issues. My understanding is that for older teens, ADD coaching can be a lot more helpful than for young kids.

That said, as with behavioral treatments for kids and teens with ADD/ADHD, when the parents learn the specific skills, they can help to support their child or teen with these on a day to day basis. Thus, if parents learn the skills that an ADD coach can provide, it can help the child or teen significantly.

Resources which you may be interested in:

This article is meant to be an introduction to coaching for ADD/ADHD. Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

Please let us know: Have you ever considered coaching for ADD/ADHD? Have you ever tried it?

Please share your comments below.

Best,

Dr. Kenny

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Adult ADD Overwhelm

It is very common for adults with ADD to feel overwhelmed. If you are an adult with ADD, or live with one, then you know what I’m talking about. Often ‘living by the to-do list’.

I’ve just posted a video podcast interview with Jennifer Koretsky about this exact topic.
If you want to get some specific strategies to help you to overcome Adult ADD overwhelm, then go visit this video podcast now: Adult ADD Overwhelm.

And if you want to be sure to get all new episodes of the ADHD TV Video Podcast delivered right to your computer or iPod, make sure to subscribe to our show via iTunes. (You can watch a video on how to do that here).

Enjoy!

Best,

Dr. Kenny

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