Recently, one of my email subscribers forwarded a link to this parenting reward chart template for Microsoft Word 2007.
When parenting a child with ADD or ADHD, it is important to have clear structure. When working on a reward system, it is often helpful to set small rewards that can be achieved easily. This will allow for many chances for your child to succeed and be complimented/appreciated.
A big mistake which some parents end up with is to set a large goal – i.e. a trip to Disney World in 6 months, if you’re good. This is too far off, that it often isn’t motivating for your child beyond a day or two. Also, if you do book the trip and then your child stops complying – it would be very hard to cancel that trip as a consequence. And if you do cancel it – you will likely be very angry about it (i.e. missing the vacation, cancellation fees, etc.), and then your child will get a very angry response which can fuel more negative behavior.
It is best to set small daily goals – and to have small rewards. As this template says- it could be earning some time with TV, games, or friends. Maybe it’s the right to choose the family movie rental on Saturday night – or getting pizza on the weekend. It can also be dollar store toys. Just add a lot of excitement and appreciation – that will make any reward that much more fulfilling for your child.
This template works for owners of Microsoft Word 2007. If you want to download it – go here, and after Microsoft verifies that you are a genuine owner of Word, you can download it to your PC. You will then be able to open it in Word, and edit it – put your child’s name in the bottom and then add the rewards that you think will work best.
Maybe even consider discussing the rewards with your child. If he or she can agree on the rewards – they may be even more likely to work toward them.
As this can be a rewarding, yet challenging area for parents, please share your thoughts and experiences below.
[tags] ADHD, ADD, Parenting, Reward Chart [/tags]